Dear Friend,

What's really holding you back? When I was asked that question by a business coach nearly seven years ago, I had no idea it would lead me to write a book of the same name that would become my bestseller. What I did know was that it was a question I needed to answer. Perhaps today, you're crossing paths with this message because it's a question it's time for you to answer too. Maybe you've been stuck in a relationship dilemma, or in your career, maybe it's about weight loss or your history of under dreaming and overspending. Wherever you're stuck, I've got news for you: You don't have to stay stuck.

Being stuck is a choice. To get moving may be a challenge, but you can do it. It starts with three tools you control:

1. Your thoughts. Granted, we don't control the thoughts that enter our minds, but we control the ones we choose to dwell on. There are some thoughts that show up at the doorstep of your mind that you simply have to tell, "No, thank you. You're not welcome here." Changing your thoughts takes practice, but it's not hard, especially if you are ready for the negative or self-sabotaging thoughts when they come. Make a list of your most persistent, counterproductive thoughts. After that, make a list of the thoughts you'd like to replace them with - ones that will motivate you in the right direction.

2. Your words. One of the reasons to watch your thoughts is because they often become words. There is an often-quoted Old Testament proverb that says, "Life and death are in the power of the tongue." It's true. Speak positive truths out loud and watch how your energy changes. Notice the difference in how people interact with you. Watch your relationships get stronger. But speak negativity and doubt, and you actually speak death into your dreams. When you find yourself stuck, rather than, "I'll never change" or "I'll never make any progress," speak words of life, "This is a challenge, but with perseverance, I can overcome it" or "My progress might not be as fast as I want it to be, but step by step, I'm getting closer to the goal every day."

3. Your actions. When it comes to getting unstuck, it's all about taking action! What action are you hesitating to take? What conversation do you need to initiate? Just do it! Today. Take a step forward right now. Even baby steps will get you to the finish line. So whether it's a small step or a large one, recognize the power you have to take action.

Journaling Assignment:
Make a list of your counterproductive thoughts. Then, make a list of thoughts that will motivate you in the right direction.

My Challenge to You:
Take one small, but specific action this week that will move you in the right direction. Be sure to tell an accountability partner of your intentions.

Until next time...Warm wishes

Article compliments of Valorie Burton
Valerie Burton is an Author, Speaker, Personal and Executive Coach.
For More information visit www.valorieburton.com